Written By: Mariam Anjum & Ayivi Guillota
Most mothers go into their pregnancy and labor unprepared and come out of it traumatized by the pain, the way they were treated, and the fact that no one told them what would happen. One major intervention that happens to expectant mothers in hospitals is pelvic or vaginal examinations.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you can say no to a vaginal examination during pregnancy or labor, you’re not alone. And the answer is straightforward: yes. You can say no to any medical procedure. Legally—and ethically—a woman can accept or refuse any procedure, including a vaginal examination. Consent must be:
- Fully informed
- Voluntary
- Free from pressure or coercion
- Supported with clear information about risks, benefits, and alternatives
Vaginal exams are performed to assess a few things during your labor, such as how your labor is progressing and the baby's position. The doctor might tell you that they're going to do a pelvic exam, but what they won't tell you is that it is an invasive and often painful procedure. Many mothers shared later on that they felt uncomfortable and traumatized by the examination.
Now you might be wondering why, if vaginal exams are so invasive, are they even done in the first place? Some interventions have become so commonly used as part of routine that they are no longer considered interventions. This leads to many unnecessary routine practices that may harm the mother and baby.
The Risks No One Mentions
Vaginal examinations are not risk-free. They can:
- Introduce infection
- Cause pain or trigger trauma
- Accidentally rupture membranes
- Lead to a cascade of further interventions
Yet many women report never being told any of this. Informed consent means knowing what you’re agreeing to, not agreeing because you feel pressured or uninformed.
Routine vaginal exams done to expectant moms may cause a rupture in the membrane and create problems for the mother and baby. Similarly, performing multiple exams after the water has broken leads to an infection, which then leads to a cascade of interventions and may even result in a C-section. We believe there is a time and place for every intervention. Still, we need to understand that if the mother and baby are doing fine, there is no need to allow routine practices that are invasive and harmful, like vaginal examinations.
Vaginal Examinations in Pregnancy
VE in pregnancy is more common in some countries than others, and often tied to early induction practices that lack strong evidence. Many women assume these exams are necessary. They are not.
Whether during pregnancy or labor, the same rule applies: you can say no.
Rectal Examinations After Birth
Rectal exams are sometimes offered after suturing to check for misplaced stitches or internal tears. Some clinical guidelines now recommend offering them routinely. But again: you can decline. You must be informed, not coerced.
What Care Providers Need to Do Better
To truly support women, maternity care needs to:
- Acknowledge that pelvic examinations can be traumatic
- Offer alternatives rather than assuming VEs are necessary
- Clearly explain risks and benefits
- Allow time and space for decision-making
- Stop treating “routine” as justification
Above all, care must center on consent—real, informed, unpressured consent.
*Reference: https://www.sarawickham.com/questions-and-answers/vaginal-examination/
Such a good topic to address! Medical professionals must be up to date on evidence based care and culturally sensitive care. While mothers should be aware that their voices and choices are important!
So important for mothers to be aware of their choices and not have interventions forced on them, جزاك الله خيرا for sharing
Such a big awareness to all mothers out there.. I never knew that we can no to vaginal examination until I am in AMANI Birth Academy.
very interesting write up for our understanding! Hats Off!
This is so important for expectant moms to know. In my experience, I chose to give birth a birthing center that basically held the same beliefs that I have. The first time they checked was when I was ready to push. It was such a relief that I didn’t worry about the medical team ever doing something I was not okay with. So awareness matters. Because when you know, you can easily say No if they ever asked.
So important to know you have a say❤️
Important info
very informative
Very beneficial
Ending the hostility around declining Vaginal Exams needs reformation. This was a really well written article.
Really eye-opening Maashaa’Allaah.
Important topic about childbirth rights, hope many mothers will know that they have right in childbirth