Written By: Saadia Saeed

Midwifery care is so much more than just medical support during pregnancy and birth—it’s about kindness, understanding, and genuine connection. Midwives play a huge role in helping women feel safe, supported, and confident during one of the most emotional and life-changing experiences they’ll ever go through. They don’t just focus on the physical side of giving birth, but also on the emotional and mental well-being of the mother.

What makes midwifery care so special is the personal touch. Unlike many doctors, who often have to rush from one patient to another, midwives take the time to really get to know you. They listen to your worries, celebrate your milestones, and make you feel like you’re not just another appointment on their schedule, unlike most doctors for whom a first time mother is just like any other mother, they hardly understand her happiness and fears.

 Midwives' kindness feels different—it’s softer, more personal, and deeply genuine.

In my own experience, my midwife Jahan Zuberi, completely changed the way I think about what “care” really means. She wasn’t just there to check my blood pressure or monitor the baby—she cared about how I was feeling. She spoke gently, reassured me when I was nervous, and made me feel completely seen and understood. We shared stories and laughs. Her kindness was greater than what I’d even expected from a close friend. There was calm, comforting energy about her that made every appointment feel like a safe space. I never felt rushed or judged, only supported, and I used to eagerly wait for the next appointment.

I still remember the very first time she checked me when SHE ASKED MY PERMISSION TO TOUCH! I was shocked and pleasantly surprised at the gesture, although I was lying there shirt up and ready to be examined, still she respected me so much, she even said ‘Hi’ to the baby.

This was my 3rd pregnancy, and I had experienced various obstetricians by this time, from clinics to hospitals in two different countries, I never felt so much cared! This kind of care has such a positive effect on mothers. When you feel emotionally supported, you’re more relaxed, more confident, and more able to trust your body and the process of birth.

Jahan helped take away the fears that can come with pregnancy and labor. Her gentle approach encouraged a sense of calm, which not only made the experience more positive but left an everlasting effect. She listened to me like a sister, nourished me like a mother, she stood by me the way I was hoping my husband would stand. Not just in pregnancy and labor but after birth too! she continued to be a source of comfort and reassurance. Her kindness didn’t stop once the baby arrived; whether it was checking in on how I was healing, helping with breastfeeding, giving massages, womb steaming, closing of bones or just reminding me that I was doing great -- she was an amazing support throughout. Even my other children bonded with her. She answered their curious question so beautifully and guided them how to take care of their mama.

For me, midwifery care showed that compassion can be just as powerful as medicine. I would like to take a moment to thank my amazing midwife Jahan Zuberi, whose gentle presence and genuine care made all the difference—it reminded me that kindness truly is at the heart of healing and motherhood. I wish and pray more mothers get a chance to experience this amazing care and understand how important it is for the wellbeing of both mother and baby.